Lovers & Friends

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This was a tune I wrote on the road a few years ago. It was a reflection on the different kinds of stakes wrapped up in our romances and intimate friendships, the ways that we know each other, and the ways that we don’t. The kind of honesty that can flourish in a genuine friendship, and the kinds of lies that romance often begets. The music came pretty quickly, with a marked influence of Lucinda Williams and Tom Petty who I was listening to a lot of at the time. Melanie and Mary tweaked a few lines of the melody in a way which made the whole thing more engaging and less repetitive, and Dylan really got the sonic palette dialed in for it. I’m really proud of how it turned out. - Harry D’Agostino

lyrics

I still want to hold you
But I’m glad to know you more
The wounds I’ve got are mine alone to mend
It’s a poverty of spirit that settles every score
And a lover’s not so precious as a friend

A lover might inspire
All the dreams that you reflect
But everyone’s a liar
When there’s too much to protect
You only get a few
Who might forgive all you pretend
And a lover’s not so precious as a friend

When you’re grinning like a bandit
And your eyes are stolen jewels
I think perhaps I’ll love you once again
But that kind of thinking’s foolish
And this life won’t suffer fools
And a lover’s not so precious as a friend

A friend that sees you changing
Like a person’s bound to do
Might even know you better when your transformation’s through
And when they’re free of all the hopes on which your bitterness depends
No a lover’s not so precious as a friend
No a lover's not so precious as a friend
No a lover's not so precious

credits

released July 13, 2022
Mary Kenney - Vocals Guitar
Melanie Glenn - Vocals, Guitar
Harry D’Agostino - Bass, Vocals
Dylan Mckinstry - Drums, Percussion

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Upstate Poughkeepsie, New York

Melanie Glenn, Mary Webster, Harry D'Agostino, Dylan McKinstry

upstatelovesyou.com

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Jul 27

Caffe Lena

Saratoga Springs, NY
Jul 28

Caffe Lena

Saratoga Springs, NY
Sep 25

Brooklyn Made

Brooklyn, NY
Sep 26

Paradise Rock Club presented by Citizens

Boston, MA

discography

You Only Get A Few

Mar 2023
Healing

Feb 2019
Live At ArtsRiot

Jun 2020
Metaxy

Sep 2022
Lovers & Friends

Jul 2022
Everything Changes

May 2020
A Remedy

Jul 2015
Still Moving

Jun 2013
Upstate Rubdown

Jun 2012

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